Last night we lit the candles and dined on warm soup, crusted garlic bread and mulled wine.
Babies climbed under and around the table, finding rest in various cradled arms, bumping their heads time and time again on both wooden and human legs.
As infant comforting and conversation were continually on our lips and in our arms, our friend, a new mom of one new joyful soul, gently looked over and almost in a whisper shared, "Babies just don't need much, do they?"
One question I'm asked more often than not is this, "What do I need to get to prepare for my baby?"
Oh dear friend, if you only knew.
If you know knew that all your baby really needs is you.
Yes. Diapers & wipes, onesies and sleepers (both optional items for summer babies most of the time), and yes, a few blankets and bottles will do as well.
But at the end of the day, all your tiny needs is you.
Often times though, in the midst of this romantic notion of truth that you are enough, the questions still remain - what do I really need, as in tangibles?
Oooooooh, that kind of need!
As questions such as these have come to my attention time and time again I thought it may be time to add a little component to this blog. Let's call it... Hummmm... A Few Simple Luxuries.
Because all of which I'm going to share are not necessary to caring for your little or for you, but good books, good food, good tools, and sound resources - all these simple luxuries of life do make parenting that much more enjoyable, life-giving and, dare I say, a bit easier at times?
So at least once a month I'm going to share with you, my lovely readers, clients, and friends, a few of my most favorite luxuries that bring life and joy into the everyday.
We'll dive into recipes (we're talking quick calories here, by no means full meals - who has time for that?), influential or simply good books (some of which you can check out from my lending library if you're a client), baby items (because for the LOVE do we really need everything in Bye Bye Baby? No. The answer is no.), and quite possibly a note or two of something I have learned along the way.
So without further ado, here’s our first few simple luxuries.
When a good friend was given a difficult diagnosis that put her in bed for months upon months, her community rallied. We're talking a Take Them A Meal schedule set up for multiple meals each week for months on end. It was an act of God really. When visiting one weekend, these (or an adapation of these) showed up at her doorstep and were immediate stock for her freezer, for the days when the only energy available to make a meal for her family was to open the freezer, heat these up and let it be. They were also the inspiration for my many dozens of burritos made and frozen in the weeks before we welcomed Matthias.
Speaking of Matthias, let's talk teeth. And while we talking teeth can we talk about how much I dislike these? It's not personal, the theory is good, the execution and the time it takes to clean them, not so good. Let me tell you where teething relief is at. It's all in the blessed gift of the frozen blueberry. You've got it. Keep a bag, or 15, in your freezer and you have the most relieving tool you could ask for. Take a handful, plop them your little ones highchair tray and let them live in sweet healthy relief.
I recently recommended this beautiful book and much in the same vein, I'm going to recommend Spirit-Led Parenting by one of my favorite podcasters, Megan Tietz, and co-author, Laura Oyer. These two books only begin to unveil my bias toward the aformentioned belief that you are enough. Never-the-less, affirmation of such is always welcome and a few tips and suggestions along the way never harm.
All three of our littles were welcomed into our family in sunny months. Months when the sun rose earlier each day and stayed high for longer moments into the evening. When I think back to the early days, the days of new baby and wanting so desperately to soak in that sun both on the beach and in our backyard, I grow more fond of this gift were were given at one of our first baby showers. This little tent we used from the beaches of Hawaii and Lake Michigan to the grass in our front yard and into the blushing strawberry fields. When our littles needed to rest and I needed to move and wanted them close but not vulnerable to the sun and overly curious neighbor kids, this tent (now out with a much more updated look and safety features) was a saving grace.
Have a great weekend and remember - You are enough and enjoy the simple luxuries of the everyday.